I don’t want this to sound like an essay I had to write for media back in college because that would be incredibly boring for my dear readers and stray away from the intentions of the post. You may be thinking oh, this is one of those let’s analyse every degrading music video that objectifies women. No, that’s not what I’m going to do as there’s too many but I just want to focus on a couple, actually sung by female artists who seem to want to degrade themselves. Interesting.
The first video I want to address is Little Mix and their new video ‘Black Magic’. Although it’s a decent pop song and will probably be a big hit, the video annoyed me for several reasons. It’s about wanting to get the guy that the popular girl is with. We’ve all been there sure, but Little Mix imply that you should change your whole look and act provocative to get his attention which I guess is true in some respects but there’s this thing they are missing and it’s called personality.
They all start off as geeky girls who are still very attractive since geeky is done in the most stylish way possible. This in itself doesn’t represent a plain, young teenager trying to get a boy’s attention. They find this book which transforms them all into really attractive teenagers and the boy they all like finally gives them some attention and dumps his girlfriend. Not very nice at all.
Little Mix seem to be saying that the only way to get the guy is to look like someone else and nothing like your old self. Sure, as we get older, our appearance changes with new trends, the influence of our friends, the media and age but nothing should make you want to change just to get noticed by boys. The message they are sending out is so wrong and their target audience is young girls aged 10-16. What are they going to think? Little Mix are meant to be role models but this isn’t how a young girl should act. It’s not boys who are encouraging us to look like this, it’s the bands and singers promoting this image. Yes, guys are more attracted to girls who look attractive but there are different versions of attractive. What one person finds attractive, another won’t.
The next video I want to look at is Meghan Trainor’s ‘Dear Future Husband’. I hate the song and its premise. It starts with ‘Take me on a date, I deserve it babe’. How can you tell someone you ‘deserve’ to go on a date?! That’s ridiculous. Just spending time with someone should be enough, it doesn’t have to be a fancy restaurant. She is falsely implying that girls expect this behaviour from guys. Um no we don’t, I know I’m not the only one when I say we are quite happy to chill on the beach or in front of the TV.
‘And don’t forget the flowers every anniversary, cause if you’ll treat me right, I’ll be the perfect wife buying groceries, buying what you need.’ JUST NO! Flowers are nice but we don’t need you to give them to us all the time. Recognition of an anniversary is nice too but a text will do. I wouldn’t class myself as a feminist but saying being the perfect wife is to go and buy groceries makes me pretty mad.
‘If you wanna get the special lovin’, tell me I’m beautiful each and every night’. Um no, we don’t need to be told this every night, we aren’t that needy and we will still sleep with you if you don’t say that so don’t worry. I know this next lyric is probably just a joke but it’s still annoying. ‘Even if I was wrong, you know I’m never wrong. Why disagree?’ Women can admit when they are wrong despite the intentions of this song. No one likes to be wrong but just admit it when you are and it can avoid a whole world of pain.
‘Don’t leave me lonely and know we’ll never see your family more than mine’. What?! That’s just mean. Equal time should be spent getting to know both families and not being selfish like this. ‘Don’t have a dirty mind, just be a classy guy.’ Well I’m sorry Meghan but if you knew men and it sounds a lot like you don’t, you will know that every man comes with an inbuilt dirty reader. Anything can be made dirty in their mind.
‘Buy me a ring’. Alright, wanna get any more demanding?? So she’s set out all these rules for her perfect man and now wants him to buy her a ring. We presume she means marriage. So is a relationship not valid if you don’t put a ring on it? I think not, I know many happy couples who are not married. Meghan, you are so wrong.
Let’s stop parading around, pretending we know what men want and instead be ourselves. So what if they don’t like it? Personality is so much more important than how high your skirt is or how low cut your top is. What they will like is the fierce independence to live by your own rules and like what you do because you genuinely like it, not because someone told you you should. I’m sorry Little Mix but we are going to ignore your advice and Meghan Trainor, I’ll doubt you’ll ever get a husband with that attitude.