What Being In A Relationship Has Taught Me About Myself

This is something I think about a lot when I’m having one of those days of self doubt. I like to remind myself how I’ve changed my life around and how far I’ve come. I hope you can all relate to the points I’m about to make cause I get the most views on these relationship posts. It’s not like you’re all nosy or anything…

  1. You will compromise on most things

I put most because sometimes I am right yeah?! However, when it comes to love I can be pretty much persuaded on most things because I’m like oh yeah, I might just give you this one as you mean so much to me. Otherwise we’d all be arguing and that’s no fun. Oh and I find myself not caring so much as long as my boyfriend is happy…aw.

2. It’s okay to breakdown

I find it highly embarrassing to have a cry in front of my boyfriend and be totally over dramatic about how stressful my life is (it’s really not, just busy) but you know what? If they really love you, they won’t care and I feel comfortable enough now to talk about things that are stressing me out and know that he’ll make them okay 🙂

3. You are stronger than you think

There are so many things that have surprised me that I can handle thanks to my boyfriend from my contract ending at a past job, trying to over come my fear of heights, becoming more confident and learning to chill out a bit more. I have a lot to thank my boyfriend for and I like to think I’ve been there for him when times have got tough. It becomes automatic that you want to help.

4. Selflessness

A bit like my first point I guess but there comes a point when their happiness comes before yours and that’s when you realise you’d do pretty much anything for them. (Probably shouldn’t admit that one! I could be made to do anything.)

5. The relationship doesn’t define me

I’ve learnt that I don’t have to agree with everything my boyfriend says and it won’t lead to an argument. I can be myself and nothing but because we are both individuals and that’s how it should be.

6. Tolerance

Nothing and no one is perfect but that doesn’t mean I want to change them. The main thing is we can tolerate each others habits because that’s what makes them them right? There will be certain things that annoy me because I may have done the complete opposite in that situation but nagging them about it doesn’t achieve anything. Just think about it like your mum nagging you, you don’t really listen much because it’s annoying. There may be a lot of mixed opinions on this but basically I wouldn’t specifically set out to have an argument with someone.

7. Confidence

When someone else believes in your abilities you start to believe in yourself too. When someone else compliments you, you automatically feel better about yourself. I feel so much more confident about my skills and myself as a person that sometimes I just want to skip around like Michael Macintyre. (I sometimes have a little happy dance round my room whilst getting ready – try it, works wonders!)

8. You are not alone

Lastly, I wanted to highlight this. My boyfriend has seen me at my lowest and my highest and at both points I have never felt alone. There have been points in my life where even though I’ve been surrounded by people, I feel totally alone but not anymore. He claims he doesn’t understand me but actions prove that you do a pretty good job at understanding that crazy mind of mine and that’s all I really need.

Aw I’m such a sop… I hope that wasn’t too slushy and annoying. Just a change from some of those generic relationship articles and a rather personal look into my life. Until next time 😀

6 Comments

  1. 12/10/15 / 1:50 pm

    Your relationship sounds like one all of us are looking for! I’ve realized these things after getting out of a relationship, but the goal is definitely to feel this way while in one. Great post 🙂

    -Rosie
    http://www.hookupcultures.com

    • Kerrie
      12/10/15 / 2:17 pm

      Aw thank you! I am a lucky girl 🙂 I hope you find someone who treats you right 🙂

  2. NaomiEdge17
    13/10/15 / 9:32 am

    I LOVE this… It’s just a lovely, really honest piece about what being in a relationship is like! I see this in friends of mine so can recognise most of what your talking about 🙂 And the point of breaking down I can relate to, not with a boyfriend but I find it really hard and I HATE crying in front on people, only have in front of a few friends but I think it can be a good thing afterwards.

    • Kerrie
      13/10/15 / 12:15 pm

      Aw thank you so much, it means a lot! I try to be honest with everything I write so I’m glad you see that 🙂 Yeah, it wasn’t so hard to write when it’s stuff that happens every day. I think a lot of people expect a lot less from a relationship because they simply aren’t being treated right. I hate crying in front of people too haha. I think it brings you closer together with friends and then they won’t be afraid to do it around you either 🙂

      • NaomiEdge17
        13/10/15 / 1:00 pm

        No problem 😊 Yes i defintley do! Yeah I can see that, i’ve experienced that for sure too. Haha okay i’m glad im not the only one! Yeah I know, i’m goanna try be more brave about these sort of things i think!

  3. Kerrie
    13/10/15 / 2:27 pm

    Yeah why not, we’re all only human after all… it’s just the British and their stiff upper lip 😉

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