The Back Up Boyfriend

So I apologise for my lack of posts recently, I’ve been pretty busy with jetting off to Paris and chilling in a spa in Kent because life is great! I’ve also been trying to think about ways to write more mature content but alas for now I thought I’d stick to the silly little relationship posts that you all love ๐Ÿ™‚

A few weeks ago now, I heard on the radio that 43% of women have what is called a ‘back up boyfriend’. This is basically a man who they will get together with if their relationship goes to pot. I’ve only ever heard of it on F.R.I.E.N.D.S when Rachel and Phoebe are talking about it but I never knew it actually existed.

Someone I know told me she has a back up boyfriend who she’ll get together with if she isn’tย married by 40 but how many people would actually go through with this? I’m not sure to be honest, I guess it’s a sense of security that you won’t be forever alone but it seems a bit crazy to me. What if that one didn’t work out either?

If you come out of a long term relationship, you may not want to go to all that effort to find yourself another partner so is it really a bad thing to have someone else in line?

According to a survey recently done, the back up boyfriend is most likely to be an old friend who has always had a thing for you. Let’s just clarify this. I DO NOT have a back up boyfriend. Never have done, never will do. I can’t imagine myself thinking of anyone else except my current boyfriend. I’m not saying I’m against it, it’s just not right for me.

Are these women with back up boyfriends secretly quite smart or are they simply not focusing on their own relationship? You decide.


  1. 09/11/15 / 8:52 pm

    I have a back up boyfriend! lol Is it actually serious? I guess I won’t know until I reach the age of 40 and we’re both still unmarried. Never a bad thing to have a plan b ๐Ÿ™‚


  2. Kerrie
    09/11/15 / 8:58 pm

    Haha fair enough! No, I guess not… at least you are certain about your future whichever way it goes. Good luck with whatever happens ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. NaomiEdge17
    10/11/15 / 10:44 am

    I do think it’s a weird concept but if your both happy then why not? As long as both parties know where they stand I think it can work?

    • Kerrie
      10/11/15 / 11:58 am

      Yeah, that’s a good point. I did read that most boyfriends are unaware that their girlfriend has this back up haha maybe should have included that part!

      • NaomiEdge17
        10/11/15 / 12:53 pm

        Haha yeah! ๐Ÿ˜‚ oh well! Still a good post!

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