The Relationship Balance: Boyfriend or Friends?

This is often a topic of discussion between my friends and I as are boys in general  (haha!) but it often strikes me whether we have the right balance between spending time with our boyfriends and time with our friends.

I like to think I do have the right balance and I did get a friend to back me up on this one so ha I’m doing okay! However, maintaining a close relationship with both can be quite difficult. Here are my tips on having the best of both.

  1. Plan in advance

Don’t hang around expecting something to be organised, go ahead and make those plans. More people are likely to be free if you plan in advance and then you won’t be left in on a Friday night like a larry. Believe me it sucks when you realise you are becoming a middle aged woman and watching Doc Martin instead of socialising…

  1. Set a date night

This is the best way to ensure you see you boyfriend on a regular basis. I have also informed my friends of this night too so they know I’m not blowing them off. I have nothing to feel bad about as it is a routine thing that happens every week and it’s great, I can lounge about in pyjamas watching TV or y’know make the effort to actually go out and do something. Such a glam life I lead.

  1. Invite them all out together

I like to introduce my boyfriend to my friends practically straight away since they’re such an important part of my life. I do feel a bit sorry for Rich but he gets on with them all so well it doesn’t really matter. That’s the way it should be I think. It saves having to worry about excluding anyone and is just as fun on a night out.

  1. Prioritise when you need to

When your boyfriend wants you to attend a family event, you should most probably prioritise that. I’m lucky that I get on with all my boyfriends’ family; I know it’s not the case with some of my other friends but just show your support and endure it. They will warm up to you eventually and if they don’t just keep showering them with niceness. No one can complain about that.

The same goes for friends. If one of them has had a bad day and wants someone to speak to; that should be your priority. Chances are they won’t turn to you again if you say no.

  1. Take up a hobby with your friends

I’ve found this to be a really effective way of making sure I see my friends during the week. We all have such busy lives that it can sometimes be a few weeks before we see each other (I know that doesn’t seem that long but we all live in the same town!) By doing Zumba each week, I get to see a few of my friends and have a quick catch up. The rest, I try to see at weekends and when they are back from Uni.

  1. Don’t be afraid to say no!

We all get those evenings or days where we just don’t want to do anything and just want to stay in bed. Don’t be afraid to say no to your friends in favour of an evening in with your boyfriend or on your own. You do have a relationship to maintain but you also have a different relationship to maintain with your friends so it’s important to not neglect this and keep saying no.

What do you think? Is it too difficult to strike a balance? Should we make it more of a priority to do this or should only one of them be a priority?

love

 

 

3 Comments

  1. NaomiEdge17
    24/11/15 / 9:44 am

    I think this is such a great post and defintley an interesting topic to think about! I think it’s so important to find that balance and the right balance for you. I’m currently single but I know that when I did have a boyfriend I would make sure to see my friends aswell but it can be so easy to get caught up in it all. I have friends that aren’t so good at this too but I think it can sometimes help just to say something to your friend if they don’t realise. Some great points! Espicially the Doc Martin, I have to say I haven’t watched that but I do like to sit down and watch Lewis of an evening 😀 haha what a WILD life we both lead…

    • Kerrie
      24/11/15 / 1:39 pm

      Aw thank you! Completely agree, I don’t think I get it right all the time but I do try haha. Yeah, sometimes they don’t even realise they’re doing it so probably a good idea actually. Haha I don’t think I’ve seen Lewis, it’s cooler than Doc Martin though, although I have to admit, I quite like it sometimes 😛 Non wild lives are the best lives!

      • NaomiEdge17
        24/11/15 / 2:37 pm

        Welcome! 🙂 Yeah exactly, your never goanna get it right all the time trust me! Haha bless you. Yeah defintley, and I have had a word before just to say hey, i’m still here haha and it’s worked, eventually! So all good. NO WAY! Lewis is great, I love a drama and murder mystery type show which it kind of is, plus it’s set in Oxford where I live near so I like to spot all the places I recognise and have been before, sad I know haha! Oh DEFINTLEY 😀 I love nothing more now than getting home from work and getting straight into my pyjamas or dressing down/casual clothes and watching a dvd or catching up on telly with a hot chocolate or something, perfect night in! 🙂

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