Happy rainy 3rd of January, so much for going out and using my camera. I think I’ll just stay in and blog about relationships instead of getting drenched thank you very much.
I decided having been in a relationship for a year now that I’d give you some of my tips.
- How much is too much?
This could be applied to anything really but I’ll start with texting. It’s hard right to not feel as if you are constantly bombarding someone with texts about the most insignificant things in desperate need to keep a conversation going? Maybe it’s just the excitement of your phone beeping with an incoming text. I don’t what gets you crazy people going but I know one thing for certain. If they don’t reply, it isn’t because they’ve died, have been in a car accident or wait for it… are in bed with someone else. They are probably busy doing what boys do playing games and forgetting their phones exist.
2. Am I too clingy?
Sort of related to the point above but let’s start a new one. How much you see your partner is up to you but if it’s all the time doesn’t that get a little boring? We all have our own lives and responsibilities to fulfil so if they say they can’t meet up don’t go into meltdown. Life is not over. Make other plans, in fact keep busy all the time. Everyone needs their own space so make sure you both get it. You’ll find yourself looking forward to spending time together and probably feel happier for the time apart.
Chances are you will argue in the first year of your relationship. Boys are annoying let’s admit it but then again so are girls. Okay, so my boyfriend wants to spend one evening a week gaming. Instead of moan about how I wanted to see him that evening maybe I should have just let it go. (I didn’t because I don’t like being second best to games but hey I know I’m not really.) The key here was to just let him do what he wanted because he enjoys it and would have done the same for me.
Whether you argue when driving, cooking, about finances or something mundane like leaving a spoon on the worktop (yep we’ve been there) it will most probably work out in the end. You can be as angry as you like but it won’t change anything. I think that’s my downfall, I get so caught up on an idea and I just can’t let it go. Talk to each other about everything, even if you think it may offend them. Just be honest.
We’ve all been there right? Some innocent picture pops up on Facebook or a message on their phone that so happened to be within your eye line and you jump to the wrong conclusion. Social media is a terror for this. I’m pretty sure if I didn’t have Facebook, I would be a happier, fully functioning human being.
Let’s get a few things straight, girls know what other girls are like. We know they are flirty around other guys but deep down we know our boyfriend’s would do nothing about it. Why do we get so jealous then? Protecting what is yours I guess. It’s quite a strong feeling of contempt against this person you only know through their Facebook profile and yes stalking does make it a lot worse. We just have to do it though don’t we?
It gets better though, you will learn that nothing good comes of being jealous and you have more important things to think about.
5. Know your self worth
Guys like confident girls. I wouldn’t say I’m one of them and definitely wasn’t in the early days of my relationship. I played off every compliment I got, was shy at any sort of public displays of affection and was so nervous every time I met any of his family that I wondered why I was putting myself through this. If only I had chilled a bit and tried to have some fun and got excited about the prospect of a new relationship, then I’d be fine.
I was one of those girls who honestly had no idea why they were with me and I’m kicking myself for not having the confidence to be like yeah, I’m pretty awesome actually. Some people can and that’s cool so even if it seems like the hardest thing in the world, take a deep breath and try to see what they see. You are an awesome human being who has a lot going for them. The future is bright.