How To Survive The First Year Of A Relationship

Happy rainy 3rd of January, so much for going out and using my camera. I think I’ll just stay in and blog about relationships instead of getting drenched thank you very much.

I decided having been in a relationship for a year now (not much compared to some of you I know) that I’d give you some of my tips. So you don’t feel like killing your partner y’know when they don’t text you back for 3 hours or simply can’t be bothered to turn up for that social occasion. Keep calm girls, we’ve got this.

  1. How much is too much?

This could be applied to anything really but I’ll start with texting. It’s hard right to not feel as if you are constantly bombarding someone with texts about the most insignificant things in desperate need to keep a conversation going? Maybe it’s just the excitement of your phone beeping with an incoming text. I don’t what gets you crazy people going but I know one thing for certain. If they don’t reply, it isn’t because they’ve died, have been in a car accident or wait for it… are in bed with someone else. They are probably busy doing what boys do playing games and forgetting their phones exist.

2. Am I too clingy?

Sort of related to the point above but let’s start a new one. How much you see your partner is up to you but if it’s all the time doesn’t that get a little boring? We all have our own lives and responsibilities to fulfil so if they say they can’t meet up don’t go into meltdown. Life is not over. Make other plans, in fact keep busy all the time. Everyone needs their own space so make sure you both get it. You’ll find yourself looking forward to spending time together and probably feel happier for the time apart.

3. Arguing

Chances are you will argue in the first year of your relationship and if you don’t well then you’re not human or just way too laid back. Boys are annoying let’s admit it but then again so are girls. They are very different to us and I think the main thing us girls don’t do is simply accept them for who they are. Okay, so my boyfriend wants to spend one evening a week gaming. Instead of moan about how I wanted to see him that evening maybe I should have just let it go. (I didn’t because I don’t like being second best to games but hey I know I’m not really.) The key here was to just let him do what he wanted because he enjoys it and would have done the same for me.

Whether you argue when driving, cooking, about finances or something mundane like leaving a spoon on the worktop (yep we’ve been there) it will most probably work out in the end. You can be as angry as you like but it won’t change anything. I think that’s my downfall, I get so caught up on an idea and I just can’t let it go. Talk to each other about everything, even if you think it may offend them. Just be honest.

4. Jealousy

We’ve all been there right? Some innocent picture pops up on Facebook or a message on their phone that so happened to be within your eye line and you jump to the wrong conclusion. Social media is a terror for this. I’m pretty sure if I didn’t have Facebook, I would be a happier, fully functioning (and less weird) human being.

Let’s get a few things straight, girls know what other girls are like. We know they are flirty around other guys but deep down we know our boyfriend’s would do nothing about it. Why do we get so jealous then? Protecting what is yours I guess. It’s quite a strong feeling of contempt against this person you only know through their Facebook profile and yes stalking does make it a lot worse. We just have to do it though don’t we?

It gets better though, you will learn that nothing good comes of being jealous and you have more important things to think about.

5. Know your self worth

Guys like confident girls. I wouldn’t say I’m one of them and definitely wasn’t in the early days of my relationship. I played off every compliment I got, was shy at any sort of public displays of affection and was so nervous every time I met any of his family that I wondered why I was putting myself through this. I’m such a silly person, if only I had chilled a bit and tried to have some fun and got excited about the prospect of a new relationship, then I’d be fine.

I was one of those girls who honestly had no idea why they were with me and I’m kicking myself for not having the confidence to be like yeah, I’m pretty awesome actually. Some people can and that’s cool so even if it seems like the hardest thing in the world, take a deep breath and try to see what they see. You are an awesome human being who has a lot going for them. The future is bright.

I will stop babbling now but I hope that helped slightly. Exude confidence, be passionate about everything and love unconditionally. Life is an adventure with lots more to come, so don’t take anything for granted. Right, now that I’m done being one of those slightly cheesy but motivating mantra posters have a good Sunday because it’s back to work tomorrow for me.

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4 Comments

  1. NaomiEdge17
    04/01/16 / 11:13 am

    Haha this made me laugh, I don’t know if it meant to but I like the way you wrote it!
    Relating to the Facebook/jealously thing, I have been there and pretty much every friend of mine has! Social media makes it 10x times worse I reckon! I think people put too much pressure on themselves to look like they’re having a good time online also, which doesn’t help things.
    I feel like no ones fully confident? And totally with you about the confidence thing, but you can be confident or ‘like yourself’ but still be modest and not completely vain, you know?

    • Kerrie
      04/01/16 / 12:53 pm

      Haha thanks, yeah it was meant to be funny and a light hearted look at stuff like arguing but also offer a few tips. Yeah, agree with you about social media, think so many people over share that it’s become the norm. I think it’s good to have a bit of confidence, it’s not vanity just accepting that you are attractive and not afraid of what others think 🙂

      • NaomiEdge17
        04/01/16 / 2:26 pm

        Of course! And your welcome 🙂 It makes me laugh when people take these types of posts waay too seriously.
        Yeah defintley! I felt pressure to post over Christmas but wanted to give myself a break and although it was hard as its now my job, it was the best decision! I think Christmas doesn’t help either as people feel pressure to be happy and excited for it.
        Oh yeah, of course! Thats totally the right way to be thinking about. I’ve defintley learnt last year, and for a few years now, that I can think I look good and attractive but don’t have to be in a relationship to be happy.

  2. Kerrie
    04/01/16 / 4:31 pm

    Yeah, same about posting over Christmas. I didn’t think enough people would take the time to read it so just left it until the New Year. Have you got any posts coming up on your new blog?

    You definitely don’t need a relationship to be happy. I’ve been happy with and as happy without 🙂

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