I was having a little look at the top things people search for and how this brings up my blog in Google search results. Lines for breaking the ice was the most popular phrase so I thought; why not write a post on breaking the ice on a first date? It’s something we all struggle with and that first, nervous meeting often does lead to awkward silences and thoughts as to whether this was a good idea.
- Ask questions about their life
Sounds obvious but we will have no doubt stalked our date on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram to glean every little bit of information that we can. We know where they went to school, where they’ve been on holiday the past three years and the names of all their close friends. This leaves little to ask about on a date but acting like you haven’t spent hours looking at all their pictures and getting jealous over a girl they happened to be in a picture with three years ago is probably the best thing to do.
Ask about their job, what they are doing at the moment, where they grew up, what music and films they like and anything else that feels natural to ask.
2. Reveal the deep stuff
This does depend if you feel comfortable enough if their company but small talk and pleasantries can often get boring. Talk about the deep stuff, your first love, how you got hurt, your dreams for the future or any regrets you have. These are the real stories that can help you build a connection with someone.
3. Have a drink
Don’t get drunk as you may embarrass yourself and it’s really not that attractive. Having one drink though will loosen you up. Offer to buy your date a drink as well. Acts of kindness break the ice and will make them feel more comfortable around you. This will help you get those deep conversations going.
4. Arrange an activities date
Going out bowling or to play mini golf (if anyone apart from us does that?!) can be a great way to break the ice. By sharing an experience, you have something to talk about and tease the other about when they lose!
5. Try to make them laugh
Nothing loosens someone up like a bit of humour. My humour tends to be cringey and leaves me wondering why I decided to open my mouth but if you’ve got the gift of the gab or are brave enough, crack a joke. Smile a lot too and look interested if they decide to tell a bad joke.
Those are just a few tips that I have probably never used because I was too nervous and forgot but if you’ve got a first date coming up maybe try one of the above…or not.