I got the idea for this post from lifestyle blogger Emma Gannon who has a great blog ‘Girl Lost in the City.’ Emma was inspired by one of Zoella’s vlogs where she talks about the stigma of changing and how it comes with many negative connotations. The truth is, it shouldn’t. We are changing all the time; from our appearance to our opinions. As we grow, we learn more about the world and start forming our own personalities but I don’t think we really comprehend how much we change over the course of our lives.
I saw someone I hadn’t seen in about 6 years or so the other day and to me they didn’t look much different. They commented on how much I’d grown up and how they couldn’t believe it. I wondered why I was the only one who had changed but I realised I was a teenager when she knew me and those are the years in which we are constantly changing.
I still am changing. My life hasn’t exactly been a constant routine the past few years. So many significant changes have happened in my life from dropping out of Uni to finding a full time job to a change in home life. These experiences change you as a person, make you stronger, push you out of your comfort zone and make you realise the person you want to be. At Uni, I realised I was someone I didn’t want to be; overconfident and desperate to fit in. I was young and had little experience of anything that I was so eager and set on Uni changing me into this incredible, successful young woman who would move out with her boyfriend and conquer the world. It failed, I hated it. I could see no future there.
I rejected change for a while once I returned home. I wasn’t sure if I was making the biggest mistake of my life leaving but luckily it turned out to be the best decision I ever made. I embraced the change and learnt to be a nicer person who wasn’t striving to be anybody but herself. I wasn’t looking for anything but started chatting to a nice guy who is now my boyfriend and without his support, I wouldn’t be as strong as I am today.
Everyone changes. Sometimes it may not be a change that you like but maybe it’s best for them. Respect the direction people want to take with your life. You’ll find that some people whom you were falling out of touch with may come back into your life and will have changed in the best way.Some may come back due to circumstances you could never comprehend and you will meet new people through the changes in your life who will watch you grow yet again.
I know the next few years that make up my twenties will not only fly by but will bring on yet more change for me and my friends. Moving out, weddings, babies, growing up, break ups, career changes and probably a hell of a lot more. It still feels like I’m on the brink of full adult life, living with a partner and bringing up our own children but for that change, I’m so excited.