I’ve heard it said many times that if you believe in yourself, you can achieve anything. It’s something which I believe we should all live by because what really, except for ourselves, is holding us back?
Men, generally have a greater sense of self-belief. A study shows that men apply for a job when they meet 60% of qualifications, but women only apply when they meet 100% of them.
I know I’m guilty of overlooking something which interests me in fear that I’ll be rejected due to lack of experience but what if I had just put forward an application? What did I really have to lose?
Women should believe in themselves more because we can achieve great things together. We already are. There are lots of inspirational figures out there paving the way for younger generations and even in this competitive, uncertain world, we can find a place for ourselves.
Dreams can get crushed in life and living in a small town like I do means you’re not overly encouraged to dream big. It’s the people living in cities that get amazing opportunities in life and fulfil their dreams.
That doesn’t have to be true though. Small dreams can lead to bigger things and dreams shouldn’t be defined by how monumental they are. If it means something to you then it’s worth investing in.
There always comes a time of reflection for me at the end of the year when I think about all that I’ve achieved and all that’s yet to come. I haven’t had enough self- belief in my life but I want that to change in 2019.
I want to shake off the idea that I’m not good enough and that maybe I could have done x and y better. I need to congratulate myself for not giving up because life can be hard sometimes and we so often face obstacles that can make us want to.
How I gain some self-belief
Watch something inspirational
I recently watched Coldplay’s A Head Full of Dreams film and was so inspired by how tenacious the band were in their early days. They had this incredible sense of self belief that they would go far which played a massive part in the fact that they’ve become one of the biggest bands in the world.
Coldplay have never given up even when they’ve had people around them saying they couldn’t do it, they ignored them because they knew they were destined for bigger things.
Another example is Freddie Mercury. I watched Bohemian Rhapsody this weekend and was in awe of the incredible rise to fame that Freddie Mercury carved out for himself.
From humble beginnings, born in Tanzania then moving to London with his strict family, Mercury led a low-profile life as a baggage handler at Heathrow.
It was only when he attended a gig and met the band after the show that he landed a chance position of being their lead singer. From there, Queen was born and they worked hard to become the chart topping, innovative group of their time.
He also overcame being gay in a time where homosexuality wasn’t widely accepted and the film is a beautiful portrayal of someone struggling to come to terms with who they are. I would highly recommend watching Bohemian Rhapsody for some much-needed inspiration.
Take a walk
Nothing clears my head more than taking a walk in the fresh outdoors. If I’m feeling a bit stressed, sad or un-motivated then going outside usually does the trick. I find it’s sometimes nice to go on my own so I can get my thoughts in order and return to my desk or whatever I was doing with a greater sense of focus.
This is something I need to do more of next year especially if I want to dedicate more time to writing. I’ll be sure to bring my lovely Lab Fred along for the ride too as he will love the walk as much as I do!
Listen to music
I’ve spoken before about the inspiration I seek from music and how it can instantly lift my mood. I can’t recommend it enough. Spotify has a whole host of playlists to suit your mood whether you want something calming like London Grammar whom I love or something a bit more up beat like Imagine Dragons.
I may make some motivational playlists before the year is up but some of my favourites are Coldplay, Royal Blood, Muse, Post Malone and Jess Glynne.
I draw lots of inspiration and self-belief from the people around me. There are lots of people who I’m in awe of, who are achieving great things and who inspire me to work harder.
I love hearing about people’s life stories from their first job to their first relationship and how they got to where they are now. You can uncover incredible stories about someone which make you see that person in a new light, and gives you a greater respect for them.
Ask for feedback & reflect
Even if it’s constructive criticism you receive, it’s always good to hear feedback so you can improve. I also like to reflect on things I’ve done well on, even writing a list of these can help you believe you’re capable.
So if you only do one thing this December, let it be something that makes you feel good about yourself. Believe in yourself and watch as things start to fall into place.