Letters To My 14 Year Old Self

Dear Me,

There are so many things you are worrying about and for absolutely no reason whatsoever. I know at 14 every teenage drama feels like the end of the world from not having a boyfriend to wondering if your friends actually like you but I promise it will all be resolved. You are influenced so much by the people around you and become a follower for a short time. Your skirt gets shorter, you start wearing foundation and using hair straighteners just because everyone else does. If I could offer you one piece of advice at this difficult time; it is to be yourself.

No matter how hard that may seem you have to stay true to yourself. No amount of make up or falseness is going to ‘transform your life’ or make you popular like you’ve always wanted to be. Accept you’ve got small feet and a cute lisp that you will eventually grow out of. They may be flaws to you but they make you individual and you will learn to love them. Also ignore the haters. There will always be people out there who for some reason or another will want to make your life a misery but no matter what, do not give up. You may feel like doing exactly this but in a few months’ time it will all stop. People will realise that wearing glasses isn’t actually that bigger deal and start to become more mature.

Then let’s deal with that paranoia. Yes girls sometimes have it a bit harder. You have no self-confidence really. You have some good friends but they are all getting on with their lives and there isn’t much in the way of compliments. You don’t think you are particularly attractive with your curly hair and freckles but there isn’t much you can do about that. Something that would give you more confidence is a boyfriend. Some of your friends have one and they are pretty happy. The thing is you are rubbish at picking up on the signals that someone likes you. Don’t worry you will get one too just not yet and you will be happier but stop worrying and just enjoy single life for now.

You need to chill out a bit more. Stop trying to please everyone around you and stop worrying about what everyone thinks all the time. No one will really stop to notice half of the things they think you will. I know it’s hard but don’t take everything to heart as well. If your friends go out without you it doesn’t mean they don’t like you.

You are facing so many pressures and over dramatizing everything, not to mention over thinking everything. Try to have a more positive attitude and chances are you will enjoy school that much more. You have a good family, a nice group of friends and do well in most classes so keep your head up because you have a bright future ahead of you.

Love from

Me x

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