This is often a topic of discussion between my friends and I as are boys in general (haha!) but it often strikes me whether we have the right balance between spending time with our boyfriends and time with our friends.
I like to think I do have the right balance and I did get a friend to back me up on this one so ha I’m doing okay! However, maintaining a close relationship with both can be quite difficult. Here are my tips on having the best of both.
- Plan in advance
Don’t hang around expecting something to be organised, go ahead and make those plans. More people are likely to be free if you plan in advance and then you won’t be left in on a Friday night like a larry. Believe me it sucks when you realise you are becoming a middle aged woman and watching Doc Martin instead of socialising…
- Set a date night
This is the best way to ensure you see you boyfriend on a regular basis. I have also informed my friends of this night too so they know I’m not blowing them off. I have nothing to feel bad about as it is a routine thing that happens every week and it’s great, I can lounge about in pyjamas watching TV or y’know make the effort to actually go out and do something. Such a glam life I lead.
- Invite them all out together
I like to introduce my boyfriend to my friends practically straight away since they’re such an important part of my life. I do feel a bit sorry for Rich but he gets on with them all so well it doesn’t really matter. That’s the way it should be I think. It saves having to worry about excluding anyone and is just as fun on a night out.
- Prioritise when you need to
When your boyfriend wants you to attend a family event, you should most probably prioritise that. I’m lucky that I get on with all my boyfriends’ family; I know it’s not the case with some of my other friends but just show your support and endure it. They will warm up to you eventually and if they don’t just keep showering them with niceness. No one can complain about that.
The same goes for friends. If one of them has had a bad day and wants someone to speak to; that should be your priority. Chances are they won’t turn to you again if you say no.
- Take up a hobby with your friends
I’ve found this to be a really effective way of making sure I see my friends during the week. We all have such busy lives that it can sometimes be a few weeks before we see each other (I know that doesn’t seem that long but we all live in the same town!) By doing Zumba each week, I get to see a few of my friends and have a quick catch up. The rest, I try to see at weekends and when they are back from Uni.
- Don’t be afraid to say no!
We all get those evenings or days where we just don’t want to do anything and just want to stay in bed. Don’t be afraid to say no to your friends in favour of an evening in with your boyfriend or on your own. You do have a relationship to maintain but you also have a different relationship to maintain with your friends so it’s important to not neglect this and keep saying no.
What do you think? Is it too difficult to strike a balance? Should we make it more of a priority to do this or should only one of them be a priority?