I’m not going to even attempt to make any excuses as to why I haven’t posted in a while. I’m really sorry as I still genuinely love writing my blog. I have a few new posts ready to be written and one is in the process so I’m excited about some slightly different content coming your way.
So I’m now 22! I channelled some inner T Swift and sung away a night of Karaoke with my friends in Brighton. It was awesome. Now it’s over, life will resume as normal with slightly less singing especially as I’ve just started my new job!
Here’s a few things I’ve learnt over the years.
- NOTHING IS EVER SIMPLE
Why don’t trains run on time? Why do you have to book a doctors appointment weeks in advance and then wait 45 minutes before you’re seen? Why is the job process so long and over complicated and why can’t I drive to work without some moron driving 30 in a 60?! As you can see, I have a lot of pent up anger over the little things in life. You become more cynical with age that’s for sure
2. YOU PROBABLY WONT BE IN YOUR DREAM JOB
It’s taken me a while to figure out exactly what I’m passionate about and even longer to get there. I had a rough idea of where I wanted to go in life from a young age but with little guidance and a few bad decisions on my part, it’s been a bumpy ride and only now am I finding my feet. Don’t panic if you’re 22 and still not quite where you want to be. My next point will explain.
3. HARD WORK WILL EVENTUALLY PAY OFF
They say that good things come to those who wait but I don’t really agree. Yes you could wait until the right moment but opportunities aren’t just going to fall into your lap without a little hustling. Isn’t hustling a great work? It basically means chasing your dreams and pushing people to believe that you are good enough which of course you are.
4. CONFIDENCE COMES WITH AGE
I’ve never been particularly confident but from working hard and being kind (however sappy that sounds) I have grown a lot as a person and that confidence has helped a lot. Never be afraid to speak up for what you believe in. Don’t think that people won’t listen because of your age, gender, sexuality or whatever, because if it’s important then you will be respected by the right people.
5. A CUP OF TEA SOLVES ALMOST EVERYTHING
Obviously! A cup of tea is always involved when I’m feeling down, cold or just want a catch up with a friend. Don’t underestimate the social powers that tea offers!
6. FAMILY WILL DRIVE YOU INSANE BUT THEY’RE ALWAYS THERE
It’s true. They may not be quite on your wavelength at times and you may have threatened to move out more times that Trump has made a radical statement but you wouldn’t have it any other way.
7. BOYFRIEND’S PUT UP WITH A LOT
They deal with your sadness, your crazy outburst and celebrate the good times with you so I think it’s time to acknowledge that they’re awesome and make your life pretty damn awesome too.
8. YOU WILL GET BETTER AT APPLYING MAKEUP
I’m not good at make up. I’ve admitted it. It took me ages to master the art of applying eyeliner and I’ve still never had a go at contouring in case I end up looking like a rosy cheeked clown. I have however, got better at scrubbing up okay after years of practise. I got some great new make up brushes for Christmas which have really improved the look of my foundation, blusher and eye shadow.
9. ACT LIKE YOU KNOW WHAT YOU’RE DOING AND YOU PROBABLY WILL
Sometimes, it feels as though you are bumbling along in life wondering what the hell is going on and wondering when are you going to get a break. I occasionally feel like I’m on autopilot and have to stop to remind myself that I can actually slow down. Act confident and chances are you will begin to get better at driving, running or that daunting task at work.
10. EATING HEALTHILY SEEMS LIKE A GOOD IDEA
When you’re younger, you can basically eat whatever you want. Weekends are spent in McDonalds and Pizza Hut because you’re a cool kid. Now though, you have to actually worry about your metabolism, your heart and whether or not bacon might give you cancer so give your health a break and enjoy some of the nicer healthy foods such as cucumber and melon.
11. THE FUTURE DOESN’T SEEM SO SCARY AND UNCLEAR ANYMORE
Remember how scary life was when you left school at 16? Then when college was over and you had no clue where your life was headed? When you were 18 trying to break out of that boring retail job? Now look at you. Your twenties is all about self exploration and to be honest, the future may still be scary for some of us. For some others, it isn’t. Some already have their own places and are engaged. Some even have children. Some are more career focused and some are just beginning to figure these things out. It’s an exciting and sometimes scary time.
12. DON’T LET PEOPLE WALK ALL OVER YOU
I’ve noticed as you get older, it becomes more acceptable to tell people where to stick it. You may be young but may not the youngest anymore and you won’t be the dogs body. Don’t let people take advantage and walk all over you. Stand up for yourself and admit when you’re not happy. #GirlBoss.
13. LEARN THE POWER OF SAYING NO
If you really don’t want to go to that social event or trip then it really is okay to say no. You aren’t letting anyone down and you can go to the next one. Start making decisions for yourself but also remember to say yes sometimes too!
14. IF YOU’RE NOT HAPPY, MAKE A CHANGE
Simple really. The only way you’re going to feel better about a situation is to pinpoint why it’s making you feel that way and put steps in to change this or eliminate it all together.
15. SAVING MONEY IS THE HARDEST
When you’re younger and have no responsibilities, you have a lot of disposable income. Cue the shopping every weekend and countless meals out. Only now do you realise that if you want to move out and start your own life, you will have to start saving. Such fun!
16. SLEEP IS THE BEST THING IN THE WORLD
Life gets a bit hectic in your twenties. Work, friends, family, boyfriends and various other commitments make life a never ending roller-coaster of events and emotions. It’s so important to get enough sleep so you have lots of energy to conquer the world.
17. YOUR BODY IS THE ONLY ONE YOU’RE GOING TO GET, SO LOVE IT
Stop hating on your body. Over time it will change. You won’t look the same as you did at 16 and 18 so just accept it. If you really want to maintain your figure and feel good about yourself, find an exercise you enjoy and stick with it. Everyone can wear a bikini, don’t let the media think that you can’t.
18. HAVING A COSY NIGHT IN SEEMS LIKE A MORE APPEALING OPTION
When you’re 18, you used to hit the local pubs and clubs every weekend but upon reaching 22, the hangovers are even more horrendous and nights in seem more appealing. Who’s up for a box set?
19. SOCIAL MEDIA WILL MAKE YOU CONSTANTLY COMPARE YOURSELF
Everyone does it once in a while. I’m guilty of it too. There is that fantastic life that you wish you were leading. They seem to have it all but of course they don’t. Everyone has their insecurities and problems, social media just doesn’t show it. Save yourself some grief and don’t read too much into what people post online.
20. CARS ARE EXPENSIVE
Just why?? Something I never had to think about when I was younger…
21. FRIENDS WILL DRIFT IN AND OUT OF YOUR LIFE BUT YOU WILL BE BLESSED BY THE ONES THAT REALLY MAKE AN IMPACT ON YOU
It’s really lovely to be surrounded by lovely people and your twenties will see your group expand (maybe get smaller) but more importantly grow closer.
22. BAD THINGS HAPPEN TO GOOD PEOPLE
Life is unfair. The people you cherish most could be taken from you in a second. Someone you know may not get the opportunities they so obviously deserve. It could be anything but just know that things happen for a reason and these experiences are only there to make us stronger.
The world is scary and wonderful all at once but it’s about finding your balance and appreciating every moment so go get em.